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Since childhood, we were told by many adults, if you don't work hard now in school, you won't find happiness in life when you get older...
So what is happiness? where do you find it? Happiness means different things to different individuals...some say, happiness is a nice house, a fancy car, a good career and lots of money...some say, happiness comes from within, nothing material from this outside world could ever make you happy, it has to come from your heart....
I was born and raised in a blue collar working class family in Beijing,so we don't have a lot of material things to begin with...I remembered my parents always struggled with their finances trying to make ends meet,despite that, I really enjoyed my childhood as a steel factory worker's daughter...As kids, we used to play with other kids a lot around the neighbourhood, catching bugs and climbing trees...I remembered one summer, my mom bought me a pair of new rubber boots, to me, they were the most beautiful green rubber boots I've ever seen in my life, I used to wear them all the time walking in the puddles in the rain, it was so fun and I was so happy with just what I have...
As I grew older, I start to realize money is important, I want nice looking clothes, I want fancy things so that I could show off in front of my peers, I want to be successful - which means at the time to me was to be able to make a lot of money....So from then on, for years I've been working so hard to get what I want in life, I always tell myself, just push myself a little harder, I would be better than others...But I don't think I was happy, I was never satisfied with what I had...and I've always craved for more...
2003, I came to Canada, it has changed my view of life forever...now I can tell you with confidence, I found happiness...Happiness is not as mysterious as it seems...Happiness is a feeling from within, it's not really what you own or how much money you have, or whether you have a good career or not... happinese is stress free, happiness is from sharing with others, Happiness is from having love in your life...
Just yesterday,me and my husband spent the whole afternoon cooking together, Mashed potatos, stuffing, dill beans,corn, served with gravey...a traditional easter holiday meal..the whole apartment was filled with the fresh smell of roast turkey...it was warm and cozy..even though we don't have fancy furnitures...We watched a movie together, and to finish off, we had cherry pie with cool whip...It was a perfect night...we cuddled together on the couch with our dog Riely...I can't ask for more...
You might say, you are not very picky...this doesn't sound like that much fun to me...oh well...you maybe right...but to me, it's something special, I enjoyed my company, I enjoyed my feast, I enjoyed my movie, I enjoyed every little bit of that wonderful evening...
Sometimes I think, if you have a simpler mind, don't dwell too much on what you don't have or what you want to have, but just simply enjoy what you do have in life, you will be a lot more happier...By saying so, I don't mean you should just stop working hard, and wait for the happiness to come to you... I mean you should enjoy what you have right now while working towards what your heart desires and build your future...
To a lot of people, being able to eat at a fancy restaurant and being able to drive a fancy car, living in a nice house will only bring satisfaction in life, to me, eating at a "all you can eat" buffet, driving a 5 year old Japanese car, living in a apartment doesn't seem to be that bad, as long as I get to travel around the world, go to all the different countries I want to visit before I reach the age of 50...That's my goal in life...just last year, me and my husband backpacked through England, Scotland, Wales and France, that in itself set my mind and spirit free...I don't have to stay in a 5 star hotel when I travel, even a simple plain bed and breakfast will do, I don't have to take a cab wherever I go...taking the public transit is adventurous and fun...I think I am a free spirit, as long as I get to live a boundary free life, I am happy...
So have you found your happiness yet?
（声明：“请大家见量，我尽量翻译得比较自然，但可能里面还会有错别字，我的中文只有中学水平，大家别笑我，谢谢！”）
自童年起，大人们就经常对我们说，如果您现在不努力读书，长大就不会有幸福的日子过。。
所以，什么是幸福？幸福在哪里？对不同人来说，幸福意味着不同的事情...有人说，幸福是一栋很好的房子，一辆高级轿车，一个好工作和很多钱...有人说，幸福是发自内心的，外在的任何事物自身都很难使你快乐，你要先内心里有快乐，外在的事物才能让你快乐。。
我出生和长大在一个北京的蓝领工人阶级家庭，所以我们从小没有太多的物质的东西...我记得我的父母总是为了维持生计而奔波，尽管如此，我真的很享受我作为一个工厂工人女儿的童年。。记得孩子时代，我们经常和周围居民家的孩子一起玩，抓昆虫和爬树...我记得一个夏天，我妈妈给我买过一对新的胶靴，对我来说，他们是世界上最美丽的绿色的胶靴，我曾经穿的他们在雨中汤河（对不起，这个是错别字吧？），那段时光多么的美好难忘啊。
后来我长大了，我开始意识到钱是很重要的，我想要穿好看的衣服，想买自己喜欢的东西，这样我就可以在朋友面前炫耀我的战利品，我很想成功-那时成功对我的意义就是要挣很多钱....于是从那时起，多年来我一直在努力工作以获得我想要的生活，我总是告诉自己 ，如果我在努力一点，我就会比别人更好...但是我不是快乐的，我从来没有感到满足，我总是渴望更多...
2003年，我来到加拿大，这件事永远改变了我的人生观...现在的我可以很有信心的告诉你，我找到了幸福...幸福并不是那么神秘...幸福是一种发自内心的感觉，这种感觉和你有多少钱，有什么好工作没有关系，幸福是没有压力的，幸福来自与他人的共享，幸福是你的生活中有爱...
昨天，我和我的丈夫花了整个下午做饭，马铃薯泥，stuffing(不知中文叫什么，就是那种面包屑似的东西），dill豆角（不知道dill中文怎么说），玉米，牛肉味浇汁 ...一个丰盛的传统的复活节大餐..整个房间充满了新鲜的烤好的火鸡的味道。。屋子了充满了温馨和舒适的气氛..即使我们没有华丽的家具...我们一起看了一部电影，还吃了樱桃派加cool whip(一种白色的奶油，中文不知道叫什么）...这是多么完美的夜晚啊...我和我的小狗都坐在老公的怀里 ...我还能要求更多吗？...
您可能会说，你不是很挑剔...这听起来并不像非常有趣，你也可以这么说...但对我来说，这是很与众不同的，我喜欢我的家人的陪伴，我很喜欢我的复活节大餐，我很喜欢我的电影，我喜欢这个美好夜晚的一切...
有时我想，如果你想的简单一点，不要太一味的追求你没有的，只是简单地享受你现在拥有的一切，你会感到更快乐。。我这么说，并不是叫你应该停止努力，并等待幸福从天而降...我的意思是你应该享受你现在的一切的同时努力实现你的愿望和塑造自己的未来...
在许多人看来，只有能够去高级餐厅吃饭和能驾豪华车，住大房子才会带来满意的生活，对我来说，吃“All you can eat”的自助餐，驾驶一辆5年旧的日本汽车，生活在一个小公寓似乎也不是那么难耐，只要我能去周游世界，在我50岁以前可以去便我所有想去的国家我就满足了.. 。这就是我的人生目标...去年，我和我的丈夫以背包客的身份游遍了英格兰，苏格兰，威尔士和法国，这本身就把我的思想和精神解放了...我们的旅行不需要住在5星级酒店里，甚至一个简单的纯民宿就可以了，我们不需要到处打车...坐公共交通工具更有挑战性和冒险性。。我的幸福就是没有束缚的自由。。有这个就够了。。
你找到了你的幸福吗？