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作者:jannykwong  于 2010-6-27 10:27 发表于 最热闹的华人社交网络--贝壳村

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有一客户因在重大交通事故中负有主要责任而被追究刑事责任,他母亲救子心切,希望尽快促成民事调解,以此作为其儿子减刑的法码。星期天下午,我为促成双方当事人之间就交通事故赔偿事宜达成调解,第一次就该案的赔偿事宜与对方当事人律师进行协商谈判。由于该客户酒后驾驶,所以拿不到保险赔偿,然而将应赔的十二万多元减至三万元,谈何容易。他儿子已失业多年,即使这三万元也都是其父母向别人借的,并计划从每月不到两千元的退休金中慢慢偿还。在谈判中对方已十分体谅我方处境,将赔偿数额一降再降,最终愿意接受四万元的赔偿。

     为了不想让两老人家为儿子背负太多债务,我始终坚持三万元。这样,双方一直在三、四万元之间僵持不下。突然,他母亲失声痛哭,还差点跪地乞求对方律师答应我方的条件,她哭诉实在不希望儿子坐监,但又没有太多钱救儿子。我对他母亲的举动感到很突然,没有想到她可以为儿子这样做。(她有严重的冠心病,不能太激动)在安慰她的同时,我自己也忍不住了,第一次在双方当事人面前失态。事后,当对方律师知道我与他一样,免费代理该案,答应我回去尽量说服当事人。两天后,对方律师告诉我,其当事人同意以三万五千元与我方达成调解。
     事是办妥了,但我的心情一直很压抑,怎么也高兴不起来。原来儿女出事,伤害最大的往往是父母。


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1 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-27 11:35
personally i have no sympathy for drunk driving offenses. i think they must pay fully for their stupidity or even crimes, depends on the scenarios.

driving while intoxicated is normally charged as a misdemeanor, or  felony, depends on the situations. if someone was injured as a result of the drunk driving, in some states, the offender will be charged for felony. more if the victim dies, some states will charge the driver with reckless homicide.

recently, increasing number of states, a driving under influnce offender will be charged for felony if it is the driver's second, third offense.

the charge of misdemeanors can carry the possibility of incarceration in the county or local jail for up to one year ; felonies usually result in a state prison term for more than a year. of course, all of those punishment will come with hefty fines!!!
1 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 11:48
我也不同情因为酒后驾驶发生车祸的人,只是同情他们为此事日夜操心的父母。
2 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 11:48
snortbsd: personally i have no sympathy for drunk driving offenses. i think they must pay fully for their stupidity or even crimes, depends on the scenarios.

我也不同情因为酒后驾驶发生车祸的人,只是同情他们为此事日夜操心的父母。
3 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-27 11:55
jannykwong: 我也不同情因为酒后驾驶发生车祸的人,只是同情他们为此事日夜操心的父母。
those 日夜操心的父母 are one of root problems for chinese society. in such environment, kids grow up with no sense of responsibility.

in the states, we have saying:"if you do the crime then you do the time". it is well understood and well accepted as the rule of the society.

maybe that 日夜操心的父母 should spend some time in jail to learn the lessons of the rule of laws...
1 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 12:29
“养儿一百岁,长忧九十九。”这是大多中国父母的通病,他们大多难以做到像西方父母的潇脱。
2 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 12:30
snortbsd: those 日夜操心的父母 are one of root problems for chinese society. in such environment, kids grow up with no sense of responsibility.

in the states,
“养儿一百岁,长忧九十九。”这是大多中国父母的通病,他们大多难以做到像西方父母的潇脱。
1 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-27 12:50
jannykwong: “养儿一百岁,长忧九十九。”这是大多中国父母的通病,他们大多难以做到像西方父母的潇脱。
it isn't 潇脱! it is sad part of our value system.
2 回复 lilly13 2010-6-27 14:41
真是好律师。
2 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 14:58
lilly13: 真是好律师。
谢谢!对方的律师也是个好律师。
1 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-27 15:03
snortbsd: it isn't 潇脱! it is sad part of our value system.
中国父母在对待自己的孩子上需要改变观念,不能无休止的呵护,如何让他们自立自强才是重要的。
2 回复 yulinw 2010-6-27 17:30
jannykwong: 中国父母在对待自己的孩子上需要改变观念,不能无休止的呵护,如何让他们自立自强才是重要的。
同意~~~
1 回复 红妹子 2010-6-28 00:05
jannykwong: 中国父母在对待自己的孩子上需要改变观念,不能无休止的呵护,如何让他们自立自强才是重要的。
是这样,尽管亲情可贵,护子心切,该是谁的责任就要谁来承担。
1 回复 陈营 2010-6-28 00:50
再一次看到母亲的伟大,这个世界上有人愿意为你去死的只有她--母亲。

向这位母亲致敬
1 回复 华东方 2010-6-28 02:01
jannykwong: 中国父母在对待自己的孩子上需要改变观念,不能无休止的呵护,如何让他们自立自强才是重要的。
同意
1 回复 gyyy 2010-6-28 05:46
your mercy to the driver and his parents is cruelty to the victim and her/his family. It is very unprofessional. There is no difference between DUI and murder. the driver should've been put in jail or at least paid the full amount.
4 回复 xqw63 2010-6-28 06:29
为楼主鼓掌,为那个妈妈流泪
1 回复 trump 2010-6-28 06:48
这个妈妈就没有教育孩子不能酒后驾驶?
4 回复 彩舟云淡 2010-6-28 08:03
可怜天下父母心啊做孩子的也应该为父母想想拉
1 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 08:30
jannykwong: 中国父母在对待自己的孩子上需要改变观念,不能无休止的呵护,如何让他们自立自强才是重要的。
well, that is one of my points. also the sense of responsibility for whatever you do in life.

animals also have this "伟大的母love", could we human being go beyond that? why doesn't our humanly, this 伟大的中国母love come with something like teaching our youngs that they must take care of the consequences of their own actions? did she ever consider that victim(s) of this crime? she should have let her son do his time in jail to pay for his mistake in life, instead of buying him out of troubles. to me, that would be true motherly love. yes, touch love, is true love for human kind...

i will forever remembered my grandma's story that a son (who was a thief, robber, and murderer) bit his mother's nipple out right before his execution.

roughly this story goes: when he was kid, he stole things from neighbors. his mother didn't stop him and fought for him with neighbors. when he grew a bit older, he robbed, his mother hid things for him instead of reporting the crime. later he killed. eventually he was caught and condemned to die. the last request from him was to suck milk one more time from his mother breast....
3 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 08:34
well, from perspective of lawyers, you did whatever your client requested, gave her the best result...

but for me, i just have very little sympathy for that mother...
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