对付大嘴巴,不能太阿Q

作者:jannykwong  于 2010-6-28 10:00 发表于 最热闹的华人社交网络--贝壳村

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    社会上总有这么一帮人,终日游手好闲,无所事事,无聊得整天搬弄是非,将一些仅为道听途说非亲身经历不清楚事情原委的事件,可以在一堆朋友圈子范围内添油加醋,妄加批判,甚至可以因为一件道听途说的事件,在众人面前像专家般地对一位十多年未曾与其交流的朋友谈品论足,说三道四,堪比狗仔队之母。我对此种“大嘴巴”之人极为厌恶。
      对付这种人,很多人总以阿Q式的态度,诸如 “岂能尽如人意,但求无愧于心”、“走自己的路,让别人说去吧”或者“清者自清”一笑了之。我以为不然,具体问题具体分析。倘若对方的行为影响到一个人的品行修为在社会大众心目中的评价,那么受害者有必要直接跟此人道清事情原委,让她在弄清事情来龙去脉后有机会反思自己的处事方式是否存有鲁莽或不当,日后再遇有同类事件时是否应该加以深思熟虑后才作雄辩高谈?清楚自己的不当行为可能对别人产生的影响,清楚需要事事适当规范自己的社会公共行为。
      人与人之间的和谐关系需要你或你周边群体的所有人去合理维系。如果每个人均以阿Q式的精神对付“大嘴巴”,那么“大嘴巴”的生存大军将会越发壮大,社会和谐将何从谈起?!


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0 回复 lilly13 2010-6-28 10:09
我也不喜欢大嘴巴。
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 10:24
the base of 社会和谐 is the rule of laws. but with that, then we need millions lawyers in china...
0 回复 xqw63 2010-6-28 10:55
大嘴巴有的时候很有价值哦,比如宋祖德,给新闻媒体增加了多少人气啊
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:01
xqw63: 大嘴巴有的时候很有价值哦,比如宋祖德,给新闻媒体增加了多少人气啊
that's because china is a bit lawless right now. he think he has his rights for this "freedom of speech" and he is protected to slender others. in fact, if he was in the states, i could assure you he would have been sued his ass off...
0 回复 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:04
snortbsd: that's because china is a bit lawless right now. he think he has his rights for this "freedom of speech" and he is protected to slender oth
没错,文化不同哦,美国这样,麻烦就多啦
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:15
xqw63: 大嘴巴有的时候很有价值哦,比如宋祖德,给新闻媒体增加了多少人气啊
他八的是名人,普通人不能这样被人搞。
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:15
xqw63: 没错,文化不同哦,美国这样,麻烦就多啦
with so many potential plaintiffs, he could land his ass in jail quit easily besides he would have to pay millions $$$ for liability...
0 回复 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:17
jannykwong: 他八的是名人,普通人不能这样被人搞。

可以诉诸法律啊
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:17
lilly13: 我也不喜欢大嘴巴。
对。
0 回复 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:18
snortbsd: with so many potential plaintiffs, he could land his ass in jail quit easily besides he would have to pay millions $$$ for liability...
好象不那么简单,如果输了民事官司,账户上有钱,还得赔钱哦
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:21
snortbsd: the base of 社会和谐 is the rule of laws. but with that, then we need millions lawyers in china...
你的建议不错。只是有些事情只能通过道德来规范,不好上升到法律层面。
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:22
xqw63:
可以诉诸法律啊
还没达到诽谤的立案标准。
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:35
xqw63: 好象不那么简单,如果输了民事官司,账户上有钱,还得赔钱哦
cases like slandering, defamation are most likely civil, but if he refuses to pay the liability or be evasive to laws, then he could be charged  some sort of felonies...
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:41
jannykwong: 你的建议不错。只是有些事情只能通过道德来规范,不好上升到法律层面。
the is exactly one of big differences between chinese legal system and american legal system.

道德? whose 道德? yours? mine? or your grandparents?

if a legal system based on 道德, then we might just go back to the time of tribe leaders, churches, monesteries, preachers...
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:45
jannykwong: 还没达到诽谤的立案标准。
well, chinese laws...

not that i think china has no laws, but really the legal system is so young...

current american legal system can be all way traced back to 1600s.

china is long way to go...
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 12:02
snortbsd: well, chinese laws...

not that i think china has no laws, but really the legal system is so young...

current american lega
事情的经过我没在文章中披露,其实很难评论是否达成立案的标准,也很难评论中国法律制度与美国相比怎么样的。美国是英美法系,中国是偏向大陆法的社会主义法系,没有可比性的。
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:03
jannykwong: 他八的是名人,普通人不能这样被人搞。
those public figures can easily file civil cases against him
0 回复 jannykwong 2010-6-28 12:09
snortbsd: the is exactly one of big differences between chinese legal system and american legal system.

道德? whose 道德? yours? mine? or your grandparents?

举个例子:A在CDEFG面前说B是个言而无信的人。
就这句话,美国能判A的刑吗?
在中国这是不能的。类似这样的闲言碎语只能通过道德来约束,来遣责A。如果上升到法律层面,以重典治国,那中国跟回到秦治皇时代有什么区别?
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:15
jannykwong: 事情的经过我没在文章中披露,其实很难评论是否达成立案的标准,也很难评论中国法律制度与美国相比怎么样的。美国是英美法系,中国是偏向大陆法的社会主义法系,
no, you should not. you did right thing...

yeah you are right.. kinda apples to oranges...

but the nature of a legal system as arbitrator should be universal, isn't?
0 回复 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:25
jannykwong: 举个例子:A在CDEFG面前说B是个言而无信的人。
就这句话,美国能判A的刑吗?
在中国这是不能的。类似这样的闲言碎语只能通过道德来约束,来遣责A。如果上升到法
wow, i didn't say he/she should file the case without any evidences. that why lawyers are needed but also hated in this part of world. ...

china legal system is hardly ever close to the 重典. so what about american legal system? hell?
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