眼泪和心碎,纪念父亲的女儿。

作者:brav  于 2013-4-24 11:13 发表于 最热闹的华人社交网络--贝壳村

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在凄美的悼词中, 吕令子的父亲回忆“快乐的小女孩“

"你是位来自沈阳的美丽女孩,
你是父母的骄傲,
你是育才的荣誉,
昨晚,在沈阳,你的家乡,
为你点燃了一棵永不熄灭的蜡烛,
照亮了你通往天堂的道路,
这样你就不会再迷路了。
那里不再有炸弹,
路途中也不再有恐怖袭击。
在泪水中,我听到你说,我永远年轻的女儿,
“亲爱的爸爸妈妈,别哭了,
我爱你!
如果有来世,我将还是你的女儿!“
愿逝者安息,存者坚强
"

Lu Lingzi's father, Lu Jun, giving his daughter's eulogy at a memorial service in her honor last night. Photo by Cydney ScottRemembering a DaughterIn poignant eulogy, Lu Lingzi’s father recalls “little jolly girl,” love of beauty

http://www.bu.edu/today/2013/remembering-a-daughter/

Last night, Lu Lingzi’s father, Lu Jun, spoke to a crowd of approximately 1,200 mourners gathered in the Metcalf Ballroom for a memorial service for Lu Lingzi (GRS’14), who was killed in the Boston Marathon bombings on April 15. His eulogy appears below.

Respected faculty members, classmates, ladies, and gentlemen:

First of all, on behalf of our whole family, I would like to thank you all for coming to attend my daughter’s memorial service; our thanks goes to Boston University, the Chinese and American consulates, and other people who are involved, for your kindness, hospitality, and careful and meticulous organization and arrangement for this service. I also would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to Lingzi’s classmates and professors, who over the past few days made every effort to look for her and provided my family with tremendous help and assistance. Thank you so very, very much!

Now I would like to make the following statement to comfort the heavenly soul of my beloved daughter.

Lu Lingzi was born on August 17, 1989, in Shenyang, Liaoning Province, China, into a very ordinary family, where three generations lived together in an incredibly close-knit and extremely happy environment. As a little girl, Lingzi demonstrated her intelligence, kindness, and attractiveness; she was the family’s Shirley Temple, if you will, the little elf and the little jolly girl, bringing everybody in the family ceaseless laughter, lightheartedness, and fun. She took piano lessons, practiced calligraphy, danced, and even acted as a show hostess; whatever she set her mind to, she would do a great job; her interests were very diverse; she was naturally openhearted, energetic, verbal, and communicative. With everyone around her, whether it was a relative, family friends, or neighbors, old and young, she would, without exception, develop meaningful relationships and make them happy. We could take Lingzi anywhere; she often would join us at parties and company events.

From a very young age, Lingzi was never shy; she was full of confidence on the stage, playing the piano and dancing. At home, in family reunions, she would offer to perform tongue-twisters, piano pieces, and to sing songs. At her maternal great-grandmother’s 90th birthday party, her grandfather’s 70th and 80th birthday parties, and my parents’ birthday parties, she would, on behalf of the whole family, give congratulatory speeches and offer best wishes. Her compassion, sweet voice, and beautiful smiles will forever stay in my heart and mind.

After she entered the elementary school, Lingzi worked extremely hard, always challenged herself, and set high standards. Academically, she had been outstanding all those years. When she graduated from the elementary school, she placed fifth in the entire class, entering Northeast Yucai Middle School, the best of the city; when the time came for the National Entrance Examinations, again she performed well, ranking third among the whole class of extremely competent students in a highly competitive process, and she was accepted by the Beijing Technological University.

She set her life and career goals early on, determined to go abroad to see the world and become an independent and well-educated woman; she knew what she needed and never wavered in pursuing them. At college, if anything, she worked even more diligently, and as a result, won school scholarships every year. Besides required courses, she particularly worked hard on her English, getting up very early in the morning and staying up late to study; she was also actively involved in different community programs, social activities, and volunteered extensively. She participated in internships at Deloitte Consulting, at banks, and at securities firms.

Lingzi used every opportunity and made every effort to learn about international college acceptance requirements. In college, she was extremely busy, independently working on her goals, without much help from us. To make her dreams come true, she was relentless and spared no efforts.

When learning the wonderful news that she was accepted by this beautiful Boston University, she was thrilled and ecstatic. It was God-given and well-deserved; we were all so happy for her and proud of her.

During her spare time, Lingzi showed another aspect of her personality; she yearned for life, loved beauty, and pursued happiness. While in middle school, she impressed all of us by successfully passing the toughest eighth-grade piano test; she had a great passion and a tremendous taste for music, possessing a large collection of music CDs by Chinese and international masters. Before she left for America, she asked us to take good care of them, her invaluable treasures over the years, and told us that she would come back to enjoy them later on. After piano lessons, she wanted to do more, on various occasions expressing interest in guzheng, an ancient Chinese string instrument. Even after we told her that this instrument was not practical, that lessons were too expensive, and asked her to reconsider, she was not persuaded. She continued her interest because she believed the instrument was beautiful. She was passionate about beautiful things, and she was determined to learn how to play it. Lingzi loved all things beautiful.

Yet she loved eating delicious food even more, a self-proclaimed connoisseur, remembering every food she had ever tried. She used to dream of becoming a dough master or bread baker.

Lingzi, like other girls of her age, was sentimental and had high hopes for her future. Years of hard work and busy study schedules occasionally took a toll on her energy level and made her feel exhausted; sometimes she would speak out, saying she was ready to call it quits—and just find a good man to marry. During school breaks, she would indulge in romance novels and love stories.

I can keep talking about my daughter’s stories for days and nights. During the past several days, everyone in the family, no matter what they were doing or where they were, could not help seeing Lingzi’s smiles and replaying her life stories in our minds!

Alas, she is gone; how can our living move on? She is gone, but our memories of her are very much alive.

An ancient Chinese saying says, Every child is actually a little Buddha that helps their parents mature and grow up. Even though we brought up Lingzi, and yet today while reflecting on her short twenty-four-year life, we as parents admire and appreciate her kindness, courage, and her yearning for a beautiful life!

Lingzi, you are simply the best!

Just shortly before we came here, your former teachers, classmates, as well as strangers on the website back at home, all spontaneously gathered in the Shenyang Central Square one evening. They lit candles, and held a ceremony in your memory. Your elementary home-room teacher wrote, “May you remain as jolly as a little elf in the heavenly garden!”

Before I finish, I would like to quote a poem published in the Shenyang Evening News on April 18, to console Lingzi and all those who perished and were wounded in the attack:

You’re a beautiful girl from Shenyang,
The pride of your parents,
An honor of Yucai,
Last night, Shenyang, your hometown,
Lit you an everlasting candle,
Lighting up your path to heaven,
So that you won’t lose your way anymore,
There will be no bombs,
Or terrorist attacks in its path,
In tears, we hear you say, the forever young,
“Dear Dad and Mom, don’t cry,
I love you!
If there is an after-life, I will be your daughter again!”
May the perished rest in peace, and the survivors be strong.

Our eternal thanks to the poet. We owe a tremendous sense of gratitude to all the teachers, professors, and classmates who had loved and cared for Lingzi in her life.

Thank you!

Smooth journey, Lingzi! Thank you.


18 Comments on Remembering a Daughter
  • F.B. King on 04.23.2013 at 7:37 am

    Heartbreaking. A cherished daughter lost … I cannot imagine anything more painful … bless these fine people and may time ease this terrible wound.

  • SSmith on 04.23.2013 at 8:51 am

    I’m in tears reading this. Powerful and moving tribute. Thanks for sharing in its entirety.

  • Kasey Elliott on 04.23.2013 at 9:18 am

    Beautiful.

  •  on 04.23.2013 at 9:42 am

    叔叔、阿姨,我会继承令子姐姐的梦想的!

  • 庄志毅 on 04.23.2013 at 10:06 am

    我参加了117届波士顿马拉松。我和我的跑友们永远都不会忘记吕令子。我们的心都碎了!

  • Laura on 04.23.2013 at 11:39 am

    My heart goes out to you. With much love…

  • David Bee on 04.23.2013 at 11:47 am

    The moving eulogy by Ling-zi’s Father apparently was about Her chosen-English-name Dorothy, which means “gift of God”.

  • BU on 04.23.2013 at 12:02 pm

    What amazing strength from such wonderful, loving parents.

  • R.N. Grady on 04.23.2013 at 12:09 pm

    Her father is extremely eloquent despite his immense pain. A beautiful tribute to a wonderful person whom all will miss.

  • Donovan Lu on 04.23.2013 at 1:39 pm

    她的笑容永远在我们心中

  • Nicky on 04.23.2013 at 3:33 pm

    The enduring love from the amazing father…. I am in tears

  • David on 04.23.2013 at 4:16 pm

    Iris Chang and now Lingzi. They will enjoy each other on the journey. So much alike. It is so understandable to see how these women came to be when you see their parents and family. Can we try and say “never again?” I guess that’s what Hope is….

  • AresYuen on 04.23.2013 at 4:47 pm

    I can’t stop my tears falling in reading this…

  • 旭卿 on 04.23.2013 at 5:13 pm

    parents are the most wonderful. Enduring love~

  • John M - Texas on 04.23.2013 at 7:08 pm

    To all who read – please forgive the length – The tears started on Monday and increased as it was learned this wonderful young woman was among those who had been taken from us so early in life. I did not know her and were it not for this event likely never would have ,, the hurt and saddness has been felt each time I see a photo of her, esp the one on the podium ,, these were the eyes of the future. For her father to stand and present his daughter in her life as he did took great courage. I have felt, as he does now, the same need for inner strength when being faced with such a loss. For those around Lingzi, who loved her, knew her and now surround her family – thank you all ,, you will never know the amount of strength and comfort it provides to those who have lost such a treasure. To Mr and Mrs Lu, may you find comfort in your loss knowing that Lingzi’s journey had filled those around her with love, great happiness and endless memories. She will be missed in her presence, but remembered always in her spirit. You are in our eternal fathers arms now little star, may you find comfort in your saddness and joy in the love you have given to many.

  • ken on 04.23.2013 at 7:58 pm

    can’t stop my tears even i am a guy. Lingzi, REST IN PEACE!

  • Jim in NOLA on 04.23.2013 at 8:04 pm

    This is among the most beautiful things ever written, and yet done so during a time of such overwhelming sorrow. Our prayers here in New Orleans are with you, and in time may you find peace in your heart

  • Monica on 04.23.2013 at 8:56 pm

    My prayers are with you and your family


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2 回复 ahsungzee 2013-4-24 11:15
可怜天下父母心!~
2 回复 jinren 2013-4-24 11:15
为她父母难过,一声叹息,唉。
2 回复 越湖 2013-4-24 11:26
在最美的年龄走了,父母的痛是无法弥补的。
2 回复 tea2011 2013-4-24 11:27
心碎的白发送走独生女。
2 回复 看得开 2013-4-24 11:49
RIP
2 回复 嘻哈:) 2013-4-24 11:59
美丽年轻的姑娘慢行
2 回复 meistersinger 2013-4-24 12:08
心碎
2 回复 yulinw 2013-4-24 14:58
   花样的年纪~·
2 回复 活水涌泉 2013-4-24 16:21
唉!!
2 回复 liuguang 2013-4-24 22:58
难过。
2 回复 老阿姨 2013-4-25 05:37
越湖: 在最美的年龄走了,父母的痛是无法弥补的。
      
2 回复 笑臉書生 2013-4-25 22:00
  
2 回复 叶慧秀 2013-5-4 00:44
BROTHER BRAV,你很正直善良有爱心,很庆幸在这里认识你。

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