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David DeRose, MD, MPH,
and Bernell Baldwin, PhD, neuroscientist
In 1944, at the age of 16, Edith Eger was taken by the Nazis from her home in
Hungary and sent to the infamous Auschwitz death camp. Although spared the gas
chambers used on her parents, the already-thin Edith gradually wasted away as
she was transferred from one camp to another. In May, 1945, approaching death,
Edith fell into an unconscious stupor. The guards assumed she was dead and
threw her into a mass grave in the woods behind the Gunskirchen Lager Camp.
Miraculously, an American GI saw Edith’s hand moving amidst the corpses. He
rescued the then 60-pound girl from certain death.1
If anyone had reason to be controlled by her environment, it was Edith Eger.
Despite her horrific experiences, Edith didn’t succumb to emotions of
bitterness, hatred, or despair. She not only survived; she thrived. She married
a Czech freedom fighter, raised three children, and earned a PhD in psychology.
If you ever met Dr. Edith or heard her speak, you would likely rank her among
the most positive, uplifting individuals you ever met. Edith’s message:
“Contrary to popular belief, there are no victims in
this world – only willing participants. You can’t always control your
circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them.”2
Psychology’s New
Emphasis
Dr. Edith Eger’s life speaks eloquently to a growing realization among mental
health professionals: we all have the capacity to cultivate an optimistic
attitude even in the middle of setbacks and difficulties.3 Indeed, while many of us believe our emotions are
determined by our circumstances, the evidence indicates otherwise. You can
control your emotions—in spite of your surroundings!
However, our emotions are affected by more than our thoughts. Most notably, our
daily lifestyle choices profoundly impact our emotional state. Let’s look at
several factors which can help us remain in the driver’s seat in this important
realm of mental health.
Dietary Practices
Animal studies reveal that unhealthful dietary practices impair the brain’s
emotional circuitry—during development as well as in maturity. Examples include
nutritional deficiencies, excessive salt intake, and high fat diets.4 The bottom line is this: opt for a diet that emphasizes
low-sodium, nutrient-dense whole plant foods (fruits, whole grains, vegetables,
nuts, and seeds) and limits or eliminates animal products and added fat.
Avoid Addictive Drugs
Alcohol has a short-term effect in promoting anger, rage, and violence. Control
cells in the top of the brain are numbed. As a result, the circuits for
violence in the lower brain are unrestrained, as millions of abused family
members can testify. The long-term effects of alcohol are even more serious.
Those control cells are killed by even two ounces of alcohol daily while the
far more resilient lower brain cells fare far better. The result: a permanent
brain imbalance favoring the lower emotional centers.
Other brain drugs also can impair brain control mechanisms. Even marijuana has
the capacity, under certain circumstances, to permanently unbalance
the brain.
Exercise
No program for optimizing emotional health should neglect regular physical
exercise. We recommend making physical activity part of your daily routine.
Research links exercise to decreased stress levels and enhanced emotional
health (including less depression and anxiety).5 Studies have
also shown exercise to markedly increase levels of a powerful emotional,
health-enhancing hormone called oxytocin.
Choose Your Music
Carefully
Music has a powerful impact on the emotional brain region known as the limbic
system. Depending on the type of music, either positive or negative emotions
can be stimulated. Direct measurements of limbic structures reveal that music
such as harmonious piano selections can evoke pleasant emotions, while
dissonant music can trigger negative emotions.6 For these
reasons we should exercise caution in musical selection. Choose only music that
helps foster emotional control and balance.
Television and
Emotional Instability
We can be influenced in the direction of unbalanced emotions by our choice of
viewing fare (TV, Internet, etc.)—as well as by music. One principle of human
behavior is this: “we become like what we watch.” Indeed, our minds are molded
by what we regularly view. Therefore, if we’re interested in optimal emotional
health, we’ll exercise serious restraint in what we choose to watch. If you
have trouble exercising such restraint, consider a several week (or longer)
break from TV, Internet, DVDs, and other visual media. As impossible as that
may seem, much of the world throughout history has survived—and often
thrived—on just such a program.
Quality Time with
Family
Time invested with electronic media can also weaken the family bond. Excessive
time is of great concern because strong family connections are powerful
predictors of enhanced emotional health.7 We need to
prioritize interactive activities with our families. Go places and do things
that are fun, interesting, and fulfilling.
Trust and Emotional
Health
When we have trusting relationships with one or more individuals, electrical
and chemical “trust signals” from the higher brain centers, particularly the
frontal lobe, can shut down and even shut off the fear system coursing through
our lower brain centers. This trust aids in the control of anxiety and stress.8 Among those chemical messengers of trust is the hormone
oxytocin.9 Increased oxytocin levels also improve a
host of interpersonal dimensions—all of which tend to bolster our emotional
state.
Consequently, one strategy to boost emotional health is to develop more trusting
relationships. “Horizontal trust” in others is highly beneficial; “vertical
trust” in a loving God is especially powerful.
Learning to Trust in
God
Humans instinctively respond well to honesty and reliability in another person,
especially when they sense a genuine interest in their welfare. This occurs by
spending time together and undergoing shared experiences. Similarly, we develop
trust in God by testing His promises in the Bible and experiencing His faithful
leading in our lives. The psalmist captures the importance of entering into an
experiential relationship with God: “Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good;
blessed is the man who trusts in Him” (Psalms 34:8). God Himself invites us:
“Come to Me . . . learn from Me . . . and you will find rest for your souls
(Matthew 11:28-29).”10
Why not carve out a little time in your day to read from the Bible, perhaps
starting with the gospel of Mark? You might be surprised to find a God who is
far more trustworthy than many humans are—even those who claim to follow Him.
Along with that discovery, you may realize your emotions are coming under
better control.