Why Falling in Love is not True Love?

Continuing from the concept of ego boundary

To state clearly why falling into love is not true love. We have to make clear the concept of love and falling into love or romantic love. When one falls into love, he or she can't control his feeling or even action. His or her heart was captived by so-called love. It seems he or she was bounded by the so-called falling into love or romantic love. He or she may say that I am the slaver of love. However, falling into love or romantic love is not true love. For example, we love our parents or our children but we never fall into love with them. Falling into love is said to be associated with sex. Falling into love can also be formed from only one side. A man or woman can be in the state of falling into love for years even the other side doesn't have any interest in him or her. True love is concerned with mutual trust, responsibility, and more with spiritual growth. With true love, one can control one's action and feeling. True love grows with the philosophy of rationalization. 

Psycologically, falling in love is a feeling occuring when the ego boundary is collapsed. Falling into love is a false feeling of true love. Normally, one has some expectation on extending his or her ego limitation. That kind of expectation is hidden in one's ego. When he or she met someone who can meet his or her expectation, he or she suddenly becomes out of control. They go into an ecstasy state of joy or happiness, leading them into believing that everything is possible with this type of love or that person whom they fallen into love with. They feel that the whole world belongs to them and be under their control. Eventually, they have to come out of this fantasy and find that they still have their own ego-boundary or ego limitation. So, they fall from heaven to earth. 

Several examples can tell this kind of romantic love is the ego boundary collapse. For example, a boy who lacks enough attention from his mother in his childhood may fallen into love with an old woman just because she meets his expectation about mother's love. The ego boundary is collapsed when he meets her. He can loose control of himself. He will do everything for her just to get her attention. If he didn't get this kind of love from one, he may shift to another when he meets the right person. Even a man or woman is married. He or she may still have some expectation unfulfilled. He or she may meet someone who may fulfill his or her expectation. Then the ego-boundary collpsed again. This can explain why some people shift from one to another. Their personality is not mature enough. For this reason, falling into love is a false or fantasy occuring when ego boudary collapse, openning new opportunity for spiritual growth.

This ego boundary theory can also explain why people can fall into love so easily in online world. When people form relationships online, the process of relationship buliding actually has been shortened. In real life, the process of relationship building is slow and based on perception on physical body. However, when people go online, the relationship buiding process becomes purely spiritual. When an individual goes online, he actually opens his spirit to many new possibilities to extend his or her ego boundary. As in the pure spiritual world, relationship building can easily be formed. The process of ego boundary collapse is accelerated. Thus why people can so easily fallen into love online can be easily explained. However, bear in mind that this kind of falling into love is not true love. This can also explain why people can have the psychological dependence on online social networking. The ego boundary collapse process is fast and wide than in the physical world. In another word, the spiritual growth process has been shortened too! Every time the ego boundary is collapsed, the possibility for new spiritual growth is opened. One either extend or shrink his or her ego boundary. 

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