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我那也是..才六岁, 一听去拿lesson就不去!!
- 1 回复 meistersinger
- 是说我们小公主。
丹奇: 你是说咱女儿？呵呵，不知道呢。
- 1 回复 meistersinger
- Well, I have a few years before I need to worry about it.
snortbsd: well, someday she would be in her teen and boys would be flocking around your house. then you big headache will start...
- 1 回复 深潜
- I think you are making trouble for yourself.
If you calm down and think about the whole thing, you may realize that she can do it only when she love it. If we as parent push too hard, the kids will give up for all sort of excuses. In their mind, we try to put our preference over their life, which make them sick of it.
As parents from China, we have been through that kind rules-less competitive childhood. We did suffer, but also enjoyed that kind junior life. Our children are grown up in western societies. These Banana kids are brought up by relaxed, and happy environment and enjoy the so called "easy life". We also spent more time on work than with them. Of course we can have excuse of "we are first generation of migrant..." But can we say we are doing our best for our children? Some parent put their own unreached dreams on their children, in hope of their children achievement to fulfill their own satisfaction. Have we realized that whatever the children do, is their life, not ours.
A lot of times, parents say: my babe got natural talent, this or that part of body are so much meet the best dancer/athlete figure... Do we know how much does it take to be the best of one professional? other than the natural talent and genetic body composition, what about the mental strength and quality? If you think you can easily lost the purpose of your dance class when your daughter stop dancing, how about you daughter think about your are not there for her when she facing difficulty in the class?
I think if we want to our kids to achieve their best potential, parents need to change the way to do the proper parenting. We need provide them two things: Unconditional love, and conditional support. That is parents need put all their love on their children. regardless their winning or loss, succeed or failure, the kids need know their parents are always there for them. Parents must show their commitment and involvement of the sport/activities their children are in. But parents must also show the right support for the right reason: we support our kids to set their goal and help them to achieve it. We do not support them if they do not willing to commit to achieve their goal. in other word, we do not support the self spoiled kids to change their minds unreasonably, WE also do not support them demanding bribe, for doing things they choose to do.
That's my opinion. hope you agree.
- 1 回复 丹奇
- Thank you so much for the advise. That's the most profound suggestion I received. You are right. My girl are very sensitive and she needs proper guidance. That's my homework to accomplish! She loves dancing, but does not like to be behind the class and not want to be arranged. She dances at home freely.
深潜: I think you are making trouble for yourself.
If you calm down and think about the whole thing, you may realize that she can do it only when she love i ...
- 1 回复 丹奇
- 她内心是喜欢跳舞的，就是逆反，不爱听老妈的安排。请看下文。
redbud: 很显然她不喜欢跳舞，这样的过程很可能导致她终身厌倦舞蹈。她的兴趣可能在其它方面，试着找找看。
你女儿非常聪明，说出了自己的心里话。
- 1 回复 redbud
- Well said!
深潜: I think you are making trouble for yourself.
If you calm down and think about the whole thing, you may realize that she can do it only when she love i ...
You understand education so well. I agree with you for unconditional love and conditional support! That's the most important thing for a child to grow up. Perhaps, unconditional love is more important!
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