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- 回复 纽约桃花
- 谢谢关心。是啊，这已经是老生常谈的问题了，不过当自己孩子初次遭遇的时候，还是要做好心理准备啊!
redbud: 哇，小伙子真帅，有你的风采。
其实人多了，人家就要采取政策保护自己的孩子，这也正常，歧视要看怎么定义了。就好像我们中国的政策里，各个省的录取分数线不同 ...
- 回复 Matney
- 顶
Dracula88: 其实造成这种现象就是因为亚裔特别是华裔的名校情节比别的族裔强烈的太多！很多华人家长混的一般，就把自己的梦想全部寄托到孩子身上，并以是否能上名校作为衡量 ...
- 回复 此山中
纽约桃花: 没错,太同意了,如果能够在经济上称霸,才是最根本!
哈哈，称霸的心理其实和想上名校的心理类似啦。华人离称霸还远着哪。不要太急功近利了，努力找到在北美社会中稳固的位置，一点一点建立基础，从小做到大。这个是战略。但是战术上，该争得争，该哭该闹一定要闹，所以俺支持你的文章滴，要闹俺也会跟着闹滴
- 回复 Matney
- 顶，是帮助孩子去建立人生观和志向，而不是让他，她们去实现家长们的梦．
此山中:
哇咔咔，华人应该改变观念才能在种族竞争中取得优势，最重要的一点就是改变唯有读书高的可笑思维定势。一个优秀的书呆子民族，永远都只能做任人宰割的高级 ...
- 回复 此山中
Matney: 顶，是帮助孩子去建立人生观和志向，而不是让他，她们去实现家长们的梦．
华人的孩子最需要培养的不是钢琴，舞蹈，绘画这些无聊无用的东东，而是自信心，领导能力，团队精神，俺儿子的课外活动只有体育类的，空手道，棒球，游泳等等，将来他想泡妞了，自然想去学音乐啦
- 回复 tsueict
- 1. This kind of reality was revealed/discovered by an ABC about 25 years ago (in the middle of 80s), who wrote it as part of his issue/thesis in Princeton during our annual ECCFC(East cost Chinese Family Camp) discusion. No supprise - because the scores in SAT our children take are too good and they have to comptete among them each other but not to others. because colleges as the Ivys don't want take too many East Asians (including Indians then [and Koreans in past 15 to 20 years]) to avoid Caucasians complain. There was a white student who couldn't get into medical college sued UC (Berkeley?) for the 'discrimnation' for taking too many Asians then.
2. One of my friend's son was the valedictorian in his good HS but didn't get admission from Swathmore College, PA (#1 among college compare as Ivys in US and World News ranking in difirent catgory) due to 'the activity column in the applicationin his application forms is empty' answered by the school. My youngest daughter failed to get into Yale too with lots of activties, services and her leaderships as a valedictorian too from other good HS. To all Tiger parents: our children need more than scores in SAT to get what school you want to be accepted as we already know long time ago.
3. Even ourselves need work harder and more didication to our assighments than our American colleages to a get a deserved promotion as you might have realized now.
- 回复 亦云
- 谢谢支持！
Matney: 赞同．
这些问题，不要一味地站在自己的角度想，就会钻牛角尖，要鼓励孩子尽力拼搏，只要 自己尽力了，孩子上的大学就是世界上最好的大学，孩子拿到其所在学校的top1的话，不信好大学不录取？ 过早地给孩子灌输种族歧视的言论，就怕孩子自暴自弃，对孩子发展不利的！
- 回复 亦云
- 谢谢支持！
Matney: 赞同．
这些问题，不要一味地站在自己的角度想，就会钻牛角尖，要鼓励孩子尽力拼搏，只要 自己尽力了，孩子上的大学就是世界上最好的大学，孩子拿到其所在学校的top1的话，不信好大学不录取？ 过早地给孩子灌输种族歧视的言论，就怕孩子自暴自弃，对孩子发展不利的！
- 回复 亦云
- 孩子身心健康和有完整独立的人格是最根本的！
此山中:
哇咔咔，华人应该改变观念才能在种族竞争中取得优势，最重要的一点就是改变唯有读书高的可笑思维定势。一个优秀的书呆子民族，永远都只能做任人宰割的高级 ...
- 回复 Matney
- 孩子是需要去引导志向，不是强加家长的理想．
此山中:
华人的孩子最需要培养的不是钢琴，舞蹈，绘画这些无聊无用的东东，而是自信心，领导能力，团队精神，俺儿子的课外活动只有体育类的，空手道，棒球，游泳等 ...