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- 1 回复 白露为霜
- 华人当中教育的方法也各不相同。只是“虎妈”以后老美以为华人都是一样的。这很不幸。
RidgeWalker: Chidren's revolution against nerds.
不开玩笑，觉得不是铁桶一块。也有人与孩子为友，和孩子一起成长，不追逐名校，不搞虚夸，把快乐放在第一位。换句话说，不 ...
- 回复 RidgeWalker
- 不要以为西方优越，跟着感觉走，拒绝粗线条思维（stereotypes, etc.)，做好自己。
白露为霜: 华人当中教育的方法也各不相同。只是“虎妈”以后老美以为华人都是一样的。这很不幸。
- 回复 白露为霜
- 我想应该是按孩子的爱好和能力来培养。他喜欢弹琴就弹琴，他喜欢游泳就游泳。不喜欢，压给他也没用。
海外愤青: 不是同意西人的观点，孩子可塑性很强，家长引导他们学琴画画，他们就可以把学琴画画当做玩；如果引导他们打球玩游戏，他们就把打球玩游戏当做玩，其实玩电子游戏 ...
学习则是立身之本，学习不好在北美很难出头。这里无爹可拼。(学习好还不一定能出头呢)。
- 1 回复 白露为霜
- Thank you for the thoughtful comments. I agree with you that the conventional definition of ‘good’ or ‘perfect’ kids is too narrow. I would add good moral standing, curiosity, creativity, work ethic, passion of doing something to the list. Unfortunately there is no easy way to measure those things.
无为村姑: The original and translation are both excellent!
By the way, it depends on how you define "perfect". I don't think getting the first i ...
As for giving space for kids to grow, I think that there is a role that parents can play here. Parents can and should provide guidance to kids as for what he or she want to be, but ultimately it is the child’s decision for career choice. Chinese parents all want their children to be doctors, lawyers, engineers but some of the jobs may not even be there in N years. All parents can hope for is to give them a solid foundation so they can adept the changing world and find their niche in life.
- 回复 嘻哈:)
- 其实啊，那也是一种福份，儿子懂事、乖巧，不用操心。若成绩不好，一天到晚沉湎于游戏，看你我强求不强求。是不是？很羡慕你的，儿子贴心又除息。周末愉快！
fuji: 我也是，按他的意志，喜好，不强求。比较象美国人的教法，让他自已选择。
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- 1 回复 fuji
- 谢谢！说得在理，我 lucky 呢！不听话会气S。
嘻哈:): 其实啊，那也是一种福份，儿子懂事、乖巧，不用操心。若成绩不好，一天到晚沉湎于游戏，看你我强求不强求。是不是？很羡慕你的，儿子贴心又除息。周末愉快！
- 1 回复 白露为霜
- 第一句有歧视母亲的嫌疑。很多父亲也爱比，只是不好意思讲出来。
嘻哈:): 华人父母，特别是母喜欢攀比这是众所周知的，攀比儿女是其一。前几天一位朋友得意地宣称她儿子在争年级第一，夜里1，2点睡是家常便饭。我说我儿子咋就没那股子劲 ...
- 回复 无为村姑
- Yes, you are right! All I wish was that we should let our children have their own aspiration, not ours.
